How should toilet training be?
Parents should be patient and shouldn’t talk about the problems they face during the training near the child. It is more accurate that mothers should be role models for girls and fathers for boys during the toilet training.
The most appropriate period for toilet training is 2-3 years of age. We should wait for this appropriate time and train our children accordingly. As children can complete their muscle development between 2 and 2,5 years of age, the most appropriate period for toilet training is 2 years of age and later. Few children can complete this development after 18 months of age. Correct age is important for toilet training, but it is more important that the child should feel ready for this. You may wait up to 3 years of age for children who do not feel ready.
The child should be encouraged while (s)he is being given the toilet training. The child should not be disgraced; on the contrary, (s)he should be encouraged. If the child is forced, blamed or punished, (s)he may reject the training. Therefore, toilet training should not be considered to be a moral issue by parents. Parents should be patient and shouldn’t talk about the problems they face during the training near the child. It is more accurate that mothers should be role models for girls and fathers for boys during the toilet training.
Don’t force the child if (s)he rejects the training!
The child who rejects the training must not be forced. If the training starts before 2 years of age, the training should stop for a while and then start again. The attitude of the parents should not change towards the child who does not react. If the child learns to stop his urinary incontinence, diapers must not be used again. It must be remembered that you have to be patient and determined in toilet training as in many trainings. Toilet training must not be done after 4 years of age and later.
Be careful if you have twins
Toilet training for twins differs from that of one child. During the training, the twins must never be compared with each other. If so, this may lead to lack of confidence and guilt in the other child because both of the children may feel ready in different time. In this case, what parents must do is to start with the child who feels ready. The other child will eventually imitate his/her sister/brother. This way, (s)he will complete his/her toilet training.
MD. Öznur Yılmaz Gondal
Central Hospital, Department Of Pediatrics